Everything loves us. It always did, to the best of its ability. The bully who hit us with a pipe kept herself from killing us. Our father yelled to push us away before he pushed with his hands. Homelessness showed us we could live without a home. Anything not to our liking shows us where we can improve existence.
If we want better love, we can love ourselves better.
When we do things, we can ask ourselves, do people who love themselves do this? When thinking, we can ask ourselves, do people who love themselves think this?
If our thoughts and actions feel bad, we can try the opposite ones.
To test alternative actions, we can imagine them and consider which feel better. For example, do we feel better when we do nothing, or do what we can? Do we feel better when we scream and hit, or smile and hug? Do we feel better when we perceive a lack of love, or when we show love?
Things that feel better take us toward our true nature: pure love. Following pure love brings us to everything good.